You may not always agree with your mom. My relationship with my mom was difficult. She is in Heaven now and I would give anything to have any conversation with her. It is amazing when you lose your mom how much you realize how much you love her. Its okay to disagree. Just don't walk away angry. You never know what tomorrow will bring . Take Care.God Bless.

Easier daid then done. :)
I had a therapist tell me one time that I was making excuses for my moms behavior come right out and tell me, that she knows exactly what she is doing. My mom is just mean! This is the same lady who stuck her nose in mine ad my hubby's business about 12 years ago. (She and I shared the same Gynecologist)

My 3 kids are from my first marriage after which I got my tubes tied. So when I remarried my hubby and I wanted to have my tubes untied so we could have a baby. I went to my gynecologist and he set up a apt for my hubby to have his sperm count checked. Well My mom has dirreah of the mouth and must have told the Dr. that it was not a good idea for us to have kids- I don't know what she told him exactly. But we went in to find out what the results were and my Dr. told my hubby he was shooting blanks. So We stopped there and I never untied my tubes.
For years I had this gnawing feeling that my mom has something to do with it. 3 years ago I decided to talk to my hubby and see if he was willing to do another sperm count test. this time we went to the fertility DR. Eric's tests came back that his sperm count was better then normal.( I guess I hadn't pushed it earlier because I was afraid to find out my mom Cord be so cruel) So now we can probably have a baby but I need a donor egg because of my age.
When my mom asked about the results and I told her the Dr said that my hubby's sperm count was better then normal she gets a funny to me to her voice and sys" What have you been feeding him? I told her what the Dr said that he never could have been shooting blanks he was to healthy.
You know I felt so bad for my husband, she has always stuck her nose in my business but what gave her the right to stick her nose in something so important to my husband I was so embarrassed she did that.
( I know i have heard her tell my kids through the years it was a good thing that my hubby and I never had kids because he spoiled them and had we had one of our own my hubby would not have been as goo to them as he was.) Thats a crock because Eric would be the same he has always been.
I thank God He blessed me with a wonderfully husband.

Hi Salazarenl,

First, let me ask your forgiveness for butting in and giving advise on a situation I really know nothing about, but....

I agree with your therapist, your Mother knows exactly what she's doing and she's enjoying it!  She is obviously very controlling.  I am sure that she is the one with the problem, not you - but YOU are enabling her!  Stop giving her ammunition!!!  Stop telling her every little thing that's going on in your life and in your family's life - she lives to spin you up!!!  Apparently, she has nothing else in her life and you are her entertainment.  Why on earth would you tell her about your husband's sperm count???  You know she'll use it against you.  

We all have dysfunctional families to one degree or another, and I'm sure yours is what has led you to the problems you have had in the past and are experiencing in the present.  There's an old saying that comes to mind: "If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got."  In other words, you need to start doing things differently.  Do what is right and best for you and your children and husband and leave your Mother out of it.  Dont' tell her.  Yes, I said DON'T TELL HER what you're doing.  Put yourself in control, not her.  

I've been up and down, too.  My sister is bulimic and my Mother is a recovering alcoholic so I've seen how it all gets rolling.  I've been overweight most of my life and have heard the same kind of criticism from my family. The ONLY person who even knows I'm on MF is my husband and he's very supportive.  It is so much nicer this way - no one asking if I'm sticking to it "this time" or acting like they're worried I'll loose too much weight.  I'm just doing it and eventually they'll notice and I'll play it down, "Yes, I've lost some weight - just trying to take better care of myself" and drop it.  

Honestly - I'm not trying to beat you up or tell you what to do, but you are in an impossible relationship with a person who will not change.  You can put some borders on the relationship, if you choose to do so, but so long as you hand it all to her on a silver platter she's going to eat you alive!  

Hold on to your wonderful husband, embrace your daughter - sounds like she's going to need you, and just go for it girl!  And don't feel bad about the cell phone - I would have been tempted to push her out of the car, while it was moving - Mother's Day or not!